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For now, read on a very interesting article written by the team of LOLA , Jo- Ann, to know how to date someone who is outside your type.Maybe she is an extrovert and you are not.Maybe he is the life of the party and you prefer sitting in a corner with your book.Maybe she is a model and you rather finish your engineering degree.How do you date someone who is anything but who you are.Read on to solve one of the most frequently asked question by people – How to Date Outside you type :
“If you don’t take risks, you’ll have a wasted soul.” ―Drew Barrymore
Whenever you begin considering the sort of people whom you’re willing to date, I’m sure that there are various qualities that will come to mind. Cute, funny, hot, intelligent, kind… Well, maybe not all of us explicitly express our personal preferences in our desired partner. But sometimes when we see someone or interact with them, something inside of us clicks. And then we realise, yes, that’s the kind of person I’m looking out for.
Have you ever wondered whether you would be able to date someone who’s not your type? Or how about someone whom you don’t have the balls to set your eyes on, let alone ask out?
It’s always scary to think about dating someone outside your type. We’ve put together a comprehensible list of people whom you might consider ‘outside’ your type, and how you may go about getting to know them better. The results are unpredictable, but do keep an open mind, for you never know whether dating outside your type might just lead you to the One
1. Your polar opposite :
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The principle of similarity states that we are naturally attracted to people who are similar to us, especially in terms of personality and values. It’s only natural for us to be drawn to people who share the same interests as us, and even more so when their life goals are similar to our own.
People sometimes say that opposites attract. But it can be pretty scary to imagine yourself dating someone who is completely different from you, especially on traits that are the most important to you. If you’re an introvert, you might not go for an extrovert. If you’re an organised person, the thought of going out with a messy fellow might send chills down your spine.
Nevertheless, there is some truth behind the idea that two completely different people can hit it off. If you’re the emotional sort, his rationality may be able to guide you in making difficult decisions. You could also be the one who softens him whenever he is too practical and rigid. If he’s the sort who loves telling stories and you love listening to someone knowledgeable, something beautiful can blossom between you two. Even if you have different hobbies, introducing each other to your respective interests can draw you closer as you participate in each other’s lives.
Regardless of the differences that you both share, it’s always possible to create a meaningful relationship if you balance out the differences to complement each other.
Remember that a successful relationship hinges a lot on compromise, and it’s up to both parties to determine how they can integrate their differences into the relationship, even if they are conflicting.
2. The one who is out of your league
This is a tricky one. I’m pretty certain that we’ve all encountered that elusive person – the beautiful and kind woman whom every other guy is in love with, or that funny and charismatic guy that every girl you know is swooning over. There’s a term to describe these people – out of your league.
You’d love for a chance to get close to them, or even better, date them. But you don’t feel like you’re worthy enough to be considered. You feel plain, boring and unattractive. They’d never date someone like you.
Think about why you like these people in the first place. Are you drawn to her gentle demeanour? His witty jokes? Is he a footballer and she a model? Chances are, they’re also attracted to people who reflect their good-natured disposition. You don’t necessarily need to be funny or particularly interesting in order to catch their attention. What’s important is that you appreciate who they are and that you show genuine interest when getting to know them. Be kind. Be genuine. People are drawn to these things.
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So what now?– you ask. GO AND SPEAK TO THEM. Confidence is key and you shouldn’t doubt yourself by labelling others as out of your league.
You are a wonderful human being and you need to believe that you are always worthy of someone else’s affection, no matter how perfect they look to you from where you are.
You may not necessarily win a date with them but if they turn out rude and hostile towards you, you’re way better off without them. There is a fine difference between someone who appears to be out of your league and someone who is clearly not worth your time.
3. Your best friend
And now, the best for last. If your best friend is of the opposite sex, this probably crossed your mind before. There is a huge element of risk in dating your best friend; you wouldn’t want to ruin the friendship if it doesn’t work out. But at the same time, your mind can’t help but spin possibilities and ‘what if’s…
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Both of you are aware that you love each other like no normal friends ever would. You’ve shared each other’s highs and lows, and seen the best and worst of one another. She’s seen you through a breakup or two, and you’ve helped her get over cheating jerks. One day, one of your friends teases you, casually asking why the both of you aren’t together yet. As soon as the idea is planted, you can’t get it out of your head.
There are a couple of things you can assess when considering whether or not you ought to date your best friend. Although there is a huge difference between platonic friends of the opposite sex and a dating couple, the distinction can sometimes be very fine, especially if you and your best friend are already so comfortable around one another. If there appears to be a mutual attraction (independent of any suggestions made by your friends), this could be the start of something good. But it’s important that none of you are emotionally vulnerable, especially from just getting out of a relationship. You don’t want to be in a rebound relationship, which often ends in ruins.
If you do decide to date your best friend, take it slow. The transition from friendship into something more could be awkward, and hurrying into it might be a little overwhelming for the both of you.
It’s exciting to be able to take things to the next level with someone whom you already know and love, but keep in mind that because of that, dating your best friend is unlike dating someone you’re just getting to know. You’ll miss out on the first date uncertainties of whether or not he or she will be your type, and your dates might be at places the both of you have already been to together.
Having said that, dating outside your type is definitely scary and unpredictable. Stepping out of your comfort zone into an unknown territory might unsettle you, but some of you will find that it leads to surprisingly pleasant results! If you think about it, dating someone is always a risk. You open yourself up to a person who will have the power to lift you up or tear you down, and sometimes even the wisest people cannot predict when things will work out.
And with that, I leave you with this quote:
“There is no intensity of love or feeling that does not involve the risk of crippling hurt. It is a duty to take this risk, to love and feel without defense or reserve.” ―William S. Burroughs
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