Have you been dating a man who loves you but fears committing to you.How can you be sure he is commitment phobic.How do you judge if you can change him or its time to move on.Have a read on the signs below and assess where your partner stands.
1.”No profile pictures of us please”-
Men who get annoyed if you put a picture of you as a couple together on social networking sites as your profile picture are the kinds who are not ready to go public with the relationship perhaps because they are just unsure of you.They prefer keeping their options open unless of course there are family reasons for it.
2.Ignores you when you say the word “marriage”
Men who are commitment phobic will pretend they didn’t hear you or change the topic when you mention the word marriage or things related to it.
3.”I loved my ex and she hurt me”
Men often use emotions to justify themselves.They will mention how their ex cheated on them or how their parents had a bad marriage thus making him lost faith in love.Fact is if he really loved you, these things would not affect him.Time to get cautious.
4.”It’s not that i don’t want to marry you,I don’t want to marry anyone”
When you bring up the topic of marriage and ask him if he i serious about you he justifies it by blaming himself and his fears rather than you.
5.He never includes you in his future plans.
He often tells you he wants to travel the world,do different things but will never mention you in his future plans with him.His dreams are of more of ‘I’ then ‘we’.
6.”I need to focus on my career”
Yes you need to be decently financialy stable but after that career and marriage has no corelation, it is just an excuses.So if your reasonably settled boyfriends tells you he wants to concentrate on his career and not marriage, chances are you are not his priority.
7.Doesn’t like when you stay over too often at his place
Commitment phobic men like when you stay with them maybe a day in a week or after a drunken night but they finch if you insist on staying together often.It makes them feel you are intruding their space and trying to exert more right on their life.
8.He makes you feel desperate,needy and crazy
Commitment phobic men often know how to use their charm and rationale to get out of situations which involves more commitment.You ask and he will refuse.You insist and he will make you feel you are wrong.If you feel this way, it is time to stop putting yourself down and make things clear to your partner.
Most men like to take it slow and not rush into the future in just few months.But men who truly love you and see you as part of their future will often get comfortable with you in all aspects of their life often after a period of 8 months to 1 year.Even after that if he hesitates, it is time to have a chat and take a stock.