1. Life is never black or white -As your grow up, you are taught things which are right and wrong. Once you are 18, the line between them blurs. Once you reach 24,you realize that nothing is ever right or wrong completely. Things you despised or made fun about, happens to you. People, who you gossiped about, end up gossiping about you. It is always easier to be a third person and judge but you can never know the thought process or circumstances behind why someone did something. Learn not to judge. It often closes a door to truly understanding someone.
2. We learn from love, we learn much more from breakups– Love is always rewarding but break ups are no less enlightening. Everyone goes through heartbreaks and eventually everyone moves on. Once you realize that, you will know it is not the end of the world. The pain we undergo during a broken heart is not always because we really loved someone. It is usually because of fear and boredom, which we mistake for true love. Fear of not getting anyone or being single and the boredom of having to let go of the daily habits and dependency you were so used to (e.g. calling, messaging, etc). If you understand this simple concept, life gets easier. Take every breakup as a learning lesson to understand what qualities of a person suits you and what you can improve in yourself for the next person who enters your life. I know so many people who realized how strong they were only after a break up. I know so many people who only after becoming single discovered talents they had never known within themselves because of the free time they suddenly had.
3. Live your present– this is the most important lesson I have personally learnt. We spend too much time worrying about the future when in reality there is no guarantee till when we or those we love will live. It’s good to plan but not at the cost of sacrificing your present. Travel, as much as you can, exercise so you can eat what you want, learn what you always wanted to learn, as there is no age to pursue your passion. Realize that loving is not enough, you need to show it. Understand that money is important but not so important that it occupies most of your time. Most importantly, do things and love things that make you happy.
4. If you can’t forget your past, no one can make you forget it – 20’s is the ripest age to make mistakes. We all have made mistakes but it is important to realise, learn from it and move on. Everything happens for a reason. You made a mistake so you could grow from it and cherish the good things in life. We often blame others and ourselves for our past. It is important to stop doing that. If you made a mistake, try and forgive yourself. If you hate someone who hurt you, stop hating them because even hate is an emotion and do you really think someone who has hurt you deserves your emotion? Be indifferent to them and wait for someone to replace that indifference with love.” Don’t rely on the past to create the future, rely on the future to erase the past”
5.”Traditional” is misunderstood – Most adults today consider the new generation low on value and too advanced in their actions. Abortion, pre-marital sex, one nightstand, live-ins have become very common but does that equate to being modern. According to me, being traditional has a very different meaning. It means more to me in terms of beliefs rather than lifestyle. A guy/girl might make out with ten different people when single but if capable of being loyal once in a relationship, that is traditional to me. A person might be living in with their partner but if they still believe in the concept of commitment, that is traditional for me. A girl might wear the shortest clothes but if she can respect her elders, she is traditional to me. If a woman is extremely career oriented and does not believe in marriage yet hopes to find true love one day, she is traditional to me. If a guy enjoys clubbing and drinking yet makes it a point to give enough time and care to his parents and family, that is traditional to me. Tradition is not about how you live because that has and will continue to change with each coming generation and the generation above has to accept that. Traditional is about being a good human. In short, as long as you are upholding the tradition of being humane, you are traditional.
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