What are the most common things that stress girls in a relationship.Men,read on to understand your women and their insecurities better and women ,read on to handle these issues better :
1. Boys Night out :
No girl ,no matter how cool she is , is 100 % cool with a boys night out.Of course, it all depends on how much your trust your man and how well you know his friends, yet there is always a teeny 1% hidden in each girl that worries what will happen on a boy’s night out,who will he talk to,who will he flirt with and how much will he drink.It is not that women don’t trust men,they often don’t trust the influence of company and alcohol. Tip for Men : Try and message your girl once in an hour or so to keep her at ease.Yes, it might be a hassle at the start but this will help to build the foundation of trust as it will convey to her that you care about her insecurities.Understand instead of getting angry that she has her reasons of fear and that every woman does no matter how deep she is into the relationship.Try making her comfortable with your communication.With time she will learn to be relatively more secure and not bother you much.
Tip For women: It is ok to message your guy a few times but do not pester him to death.At the end he will do what he has to do and you calling him 100 times will make no difference.If he is trustworthy, he is .If not,he is not .Period.If he is out to cheat on you or flirt with other girls,with time you will anyway know it.Learn to relax and let him be
2. Last seen at … :
As much as most of us think it is a relationship killer ( the last seen feature in whatsapp), we cannot deny that all of us have used this or often still use it,men or women.I know people who have caught their partners lying to them with this tool and have been saved of disastrous relationships.Women depend quite on it to derive their own conclusions and theories and men are also not far behind.My suggestion to this would only be,use it but don’t let it be a determining factor or a weapon in your conversation.If you have a doubt,directly ask your partner rather than stressing over his/her “last seen”.Sometimes they are not even accurate or could have various reasons behind it.Don’t jump to conclusion and start a fight.It will scare your partner
3.Classy vs Cute vs Sexy- The Dress Factor :
This has always been a big dilemma for girls on deciding what to wear on dates.There is a fine line of difference between being classy,cute or sexy.We often wonder what will a guy like.We know they love skin so should we dress sexy but then how will they judge us hence should we be classy or should we play safe and be cute.Personally if you ask me,men do not pay as much attention to the dress as you think they do.Yes you need to look presentable and not overdo your makeup.But as long as that is taken care of, wear whatever you feel like that day or what makes you feel most comfortable.Your confidence will attract men more than your clothes.
4. The Ex-es :
As much as people might deny this,I know no one who has not stalked their current bf/gf ‘s ex or their ex bf/gs’s current.This causes a lot of stress as human nature tends to compare and comparison causes unreasonable expectations from oneself.Is she prettier than me? Does she have bigger boobs than me ? Is he more well built? Is he richer? I have heard all sorts of questions.Many a times I see the current gf/bf even aping their partner’s ex to be like them hoping to make their partner like them more and prove themselves better. This in fact, is the biggest blunder one can make.It is ok to stalk for fun but make sure you draw your line right there.There is a reason why the ex did not make it to the current person’s life and you should not again be the same reason.Maintain your individuality and love yourself only then will your partner love you too.
5. The ” Introduce me” Factor :
Girls are more insecure on when will their men talk about their relationship status to their friends or parents.A girl often has her ears all up when a guy introduces her to his friends.If you tell your friends- “she is my friend” for a girl you have been dating over a month,trust the fact that she will not be happy and might lose confidence in you whereas it will work wonders for your relationship if you confidently introduce her as your girlfriend.Same works with the boys.A girl’s relationship morale is often determined by the status you give her in your life.When you reveal this status to your friends and family she becomes more secure and will nag you less about the future as she becomes more confident of her value and presence in your life. Tip to girls : If you have been dating a man for over a month and he is not comfortable introducing you,take a rain check on your relationship.It might not be a long term one. Tip to men : If your girl is scared of her parents finding out then that is another story but in general women like to be shown off by their men.If you are looking for a secure relationship then don’t be shy of it.
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